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Erin Lichy isn’t pretending that her marriage to Abe Lichy is perfect, and the Real Housewives of New York City star is making it clear that she has no problem with her children seeing their parents disagree.
During the latest RHONY After Show, Erin opened up about a tense moment between her and Abe during his birthday celebration, explaining why she believes arguments can actually be healthy for children to witness when parents demonstrate how to resolve their differences.
The conversation also took an unexpected turn when Carole Radziwill revealed that she once called Erin and could hear her and Abe getting intimate.
The discussion began after viewers watched Erin throw a birthday party for Abe at their home. While the celebration was supposed to be a fun evening with friends, things became stressful when their children refused to go to sleep.
With guests downstairs and the party underway, Erin and Abe found themselves arguing over which parent should handle bedtime.
During the After Show, Erin admitted that she was frustrated because she was responsible for hosting the event and didn’t want to disappear upstairs while guests were still celebrating.
“You know what, I was hosting this thing so it was a lot for me to go upstairs and disappear when there was a lot stuff going on, that I was like, catering to,” Erin explained.
However, looking back, Erin acknowledged that she could have handled the situation differently.
“But looking back, I could have put the kids down,” she admitted.
Carole, who was sitting alongside Erin and Daisy Toye, had a different perspective on the situation.
Before Erin could fully explain what happened, Carole jokingly questioned why Abe needed such an elaborate birthday celebration in the first place.
“Number one, you’re a man. You shouldn’t even be celebrating your birthday,” Carole joked.
Carole then questioned what putting the children to bed actually involved, seemingly suggesting that Erin could simply tell them it was bedtime.
But Erin explained that the process isn’t nearly that simple in her household.
“I wish it was that easy,” Erin responded. “You have to lie up there, make sure they fall asleep, and it’s a lot.”
Carole recalled that when she was growing up, her parents simply put her to bed without the lengthy bedtime routines many families follow today.
Daisy, however, sided with Erin, admitting that she still has to lie down with her own child at bedtime.
Despite the frustration she felt during Abe’s party, Erin acknowledged that the evening was supposed to be about celebrating her husband.
“Looking back, it was like a celebration for him, and I love him. Like, I could have just done it, you know?” Erin admitted.
Daisy then revealed that she hadn’t even noticed the disagreement between Erin and Abe.
“I didn’t even hear you guys fighting,” Daisy said.
But Erin made it clear that arguing isn’t something she feels the need to hide.
“We fight. It’s normal,” Erin explained.
She went on to share why she doesn’t necessarily believe disagreements between parents are a bad thing for their children to witness.
“I actually think, I feel strongly that I think it’s healthy for kids to see us conflict resolution,” Erin said, explaining that she believes children can learn from watching their parents work through disagreements.
Erin emphasized that she loves Abe and doesn’t view every argument as a sign of a problem within their marriage.
Her comments offered a glimpse into the reality of balancing marriage, parenting and entertaining while filming a television show.
Erin and Abe have been married since 2012 and share three children, Levi, Layla and Elijah.
Throughout their time on RHONY, viewers have watched the couple navigate the pressures of raising a family while managing their careers and personal lives.
But their marriage has also faced more serious challenges.
During Season 15, Erin revealed that she and Abe had experienced a difficult period after discovering that he had made a financial decision involving their shared cryptocurrency without discussing it with her first.
Erin admitted that the situation created trust issues between them, particularly because she felt Abe had kept important information from her.
The disagreement became one of the couple’s major storylines, with Erin questioning why Abe hadn’t been more transparent about their finances.
Abe later acknowledged that he should have communicated with Erin before making the decision.
The couple ultimately worked through the issue, but the experience offered viewers a look at some of the challenges in their marriage beyond the lighter arguments that occasionally unfold on camera.
Now, Erin appears comfortable acknowledging that she and Abe still disagree, even over everyday situations like putting their children to bed.
