Tamra Judge Calls Out Emily and Gina for Lack of Compassion Amid Personal Struggles

Tamra Judge is speaking out about her emotional exit from The Real Housewives of Orange County, and she’s not holding back when it comes to how she feels some of her castmates responded during a difficult time.

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In a recent interview with Us Weekly, Judge opened up about her decision to temporarily quit the show during the filming of Season 19. According to Tamra, her breaking point came while dealing with the emotional toll of her friend Teddi Mellencamp’s stage four brain cancer diagnosis, something that deeply affected her mental and physical health.

“Going into filming, Teddi Mellencamp had just gotten diagnosed [with brain cancer],” Tamra shared. “I think people don’t understand the other side of cancer. When your friends or your family member or somebody is diagnosed, you don’t know what’s gonna happen. When someone says you have stage four brain cancer — you’re having brain tumors removed from your head, it’s scary as hell.”

Tamra described herself as “devastated,” revealing that the stress caused her to lose weight and rely on medication to get through the day. “I wasn’t eating or sleeping,” she said. “I would have to take Xanax to even cope during the day without crying. I was wasting away. I was down to, like, 108 pounds.”

Filming the show amid this emotional period proved to be overwhelming. Things came to a head during a cast trip to New Orleans. “It was such a painful time in my life, and I just didn’t want to relive it,” she explained, referring to the August 14 episode when she abruptly walked out of a group dinner and announced she was done with the show. “I had a few drinks and I had a Xanax, and it was the worst thing I could have done. I just decided this isn’t for me right now. I can’t do this anymore. And I left.”

Though the trailer for the season shows Tamra returning later, she says the break was crucial. “Everybody was calling me. Andy was calling me. [Executive producer] Alex Baskin was calling me. They asked me to please take a week off,” she said. “They said, ‘We know how much stress you’re under, and I want you to take a week off. Come back to us in a week, and if you still want to quit, we respect where you’re at in your life and everything that’s going on.’ They were very nice to me, very kind to me about that.”

However, what’s stuck with Tamra isn’t just the emotional weight of her personal life—but also how her castmates responded.

“I’m not asking for grace. I’m not asking for people to feel sorry for me but I’m a human,” she said. “I might seem tough but it doesn’t mean I don’t have any feelings. To see people like Emily [Simpson] and Gina [Kirschenheiter] say the things they said about me and not have any compassion? Honestly, Heather’s the only one that truly had any compassion whatsoever for me.”

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Despite everything, it was encouragement from her friend Teddi that eventually brought her back to filming. “I am a person that gives 100 percent in everything I do, and when it came to the show, I wasn’t given 100 percent,” Tamra admitted. “You wouldn’t know that, because every story line is about me.”

While viewers may have seen only snippets of Tamra’s struggles, her comments suggest a disconnect between what was happening behind the scenes and how it was received on camera. Whether or not Emily and Gina will respond remains to be seen, but Tamra’s message is clear: compassion, or the lack of it, left a lasting impression.

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21 comments

Steve August 19, 2025 - 8:06 pm
Apparently when she is having trouble with life, Eddie is not enough for her. She needs to turn to her fellow employees -- and then attack them when they do not act in the way as she feels entitled to.
Steve August 19, 2025 - 8:06 pm
Apparently when she is having trouble with life, Eddie is not enough for her. She needs to turn to her fellow employees -- and then attack them when they do not act in the way as she feels entitled to.
ontoiran August 19, 2025 - 2:20 pm
Cry me a river… just shut up and get on with your miserable life. Once and for all quit the show and mean it!
AnEnigmaWrappedInSnark August 19, 2025 - 4:47 pm
I don't know why Gina and Emily are being singled out; while I didn't see the group being particularly compassionate, I didn't see them being non-compassionate either. But then why would they be; I'm guessing these women see each other for around 8 or 10 weeks out of the year (and that's only to film).
AnEnigmaWrappedInSnark August 19, 2025 - 4:47 pm
I don't know why Gina and Emily are being singled out; while I didn't see the group being particularly compassionate, I didn't see them being non-compassionate either. But then why would they be; I'm guessing these women see each other for around 8 or 10 weeks out of the year (and that's only to film).
Cin August 19, 2025 - 11:30 am
All about Tamra - wicked. What's her excuse for previous years.
NikkiJax August 19, 2025 - 11:44 am
Didn't she claim to be autistic last season? Previous years was abuse from past relationships. There's always an elaborate excuse with her. I get it that she's upset about her friend having stage 4 cancer but she should have taken a step back from work if she couldn't handle it.
NikkiJax August 19, 2025 - 11:44 am
Didn't she claim to be autistic last season? Previous years was abuse from past relationships. There's always an elaborate excuse with her. I get it that she's upset about her friend having stage 4 cancer but she should have taken a step back from work if she couldn't handle it.
Starr August 19, 2025 - 2:46 pm
If Tamara showed kindness & caring, it would be reciprocated, but she never has, never will as she is filled with venom. I repeat, I stopped watching OC because of her.
Starr August 19, 2025 - 2:46 pm
If Tamara showed kindness & caring, it would be reciprocated, but she never has, never will as she is filled with venom. I repeat, I stopped watching OC because of her.
Zap It August 19, 2025 - 9:12 am
Tamra needs to stop using Teddi's illness as an excuse for bad behavior.
michers August 19, 2025 - 4:03 pm
Every season she has a new excuse but that same ol’ useless apology tour
Champagne Hangover August 19, 2025 - 8:02 am
This b*tch should be an opera singer with all the Me, Me, Me, Me, Me. Does she hear herself? ?! I mean the hypocrisy laden narcissism is GOB SMACKING!
ontoiran August 19, 2025 - 2:22 pm
It’s unbelievable the level of narcissism with that one, she’s insufferable ?
NikkiJax August 19, 2025 - 11:41 am
She had no problem starting trouble while filming, but she has issues with people not kissing her ass over it? This woman is delusional. She should've taken the season off or just appeared as a friend of until she felt better.
NikkiJax August 19, 2025 - 11:41 am
She had no problem starting trouble while filming, but she has issues with people not kissing her ass over it? This woman is delusional. She should've taken the season off or just appeared as a friend of until she felt better.
book7175 August 19, 2025 - 8:04 am
"To see people like Emily [Simpson] and Gina [Kirschenheiter] say the things they said about me and not have any compassion?" Translation: Gina and Emily were not kissing my ass like Heather, and calling me out for my shit and I didn't like that. She still doesn't get it, and never will. And she seriously makes this comment, “I think people don’t understand the other side of cancer. " Nope Trashy no one in the world other than you has ever had someone close to them diagnosed with cancer so how could we understand. What an idiot.
book7175 August 19, 2025 - 8:04 am
"To see people like Emily [Simpson] and Gina [Kirschenheiter] say the things they said about me and not have any compassion?" Translation: Gina and Emily were not kissing my ass like Heather, and calling me out for my shit and I didn't like that. She still doesn't get it, and never will. And she seriously makes this comment, “I think people don’t understand the other side of cancer. " Nope Trashy no one in the world other than you has ever had someone close to them diagnosed with cancer so how could we understand. What an idiot.
ontoiran August 19, 2025 - 2:25 pm
I don’t really follow Teddi but, she seems less stressed about her diagnosis than Tamra does??? Me thinks Tamra riding shotgun with Teddi cancer to get the sympathy, sounds pretty sick but it is Tamra, idk
michers August 19, 2025 - 4:02 pm
Was thinking that too , hell she was even dating during this ( which hey you have something like this do you ) but shut your friend’s trap !!
ontoiran August 19, 2025 - 2:25 pm
I don’t really follow Teddi but, she seems less stressed about her diagnosis than Tamra does??? Me thinks Tamra riding shotgun with Teddi cancer to get the sympathy, sounds pretty sick but it is Tamra, idk
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