--- title: "Alexis Bellino Can’t Trust Gretchen Rossi; Says She Was Hurt And Confused By Lydia!" url: https://allabouttrh.com/2013/08/14/alexis-bellino-can-t-trust-gretchen-rossi-says-she-was-hurt-and-confused-by-lydia/ type: post date: 2013-08-14 modified: 2013-08-14 markdown_url: https://allabouttrh.com/2013/08/14/alexis-bellino-can-t-trust-gretchen-rossi-says-she-was-hurt-and-confused-by-lydia.md author: "Roxanne" --- # Alexis Bellino Can’t Trust Gretchen Rossi; Says She Was Hurt And Confused By Lydia! ![Screen Shot 2013-08-14 at 12.07.45 PM](https://allabouttrh.wpengine.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/Screen-Shot-2013-08-14-at-12.07.45-PM.png) Real Housewives of Orange County star Alexis Bellino was once best friends with Gretchen Rossi but that will probably never happen again. Alexis writes in her Bravo [blog](https://www.bravotv.com) that she can't trust Gretchen and says who she really was hurt by was Lydia! See why Below > "To the couches we all go. . . > > This is never a fun time for any of us. We dread it like we would a root canal. Yet, it's inevitable. > > There is so much that happened on this first reunion episode, but I'm only going to address the two topics that involved me, which are Gretchen and Lydia. > > Weeks ago, when Gretchen and I met for lunch, I blogged about my feelings on our relationship, and I don't want to re-hash that, so you can read that blog for details. To summarize, going into the reunion I felt (and still do feel) that our friendship will not recover. Can I move on? Yes, and I can also be cordial in a group setting as I have no ill will towards her. I just can't trust her. Plain and simple. I understand what our friendship was, I am fine with how it has ended and I truly wish only the best for her. > > I also understand Tamra and Vicki's frustration. It was so hard to see Gretchen deny that anything happened when Vicki and Tamra presented so much evidence to the contrary. > > Onto Lydia and I. Lydia is my true friend. I guess the only problem I have is that I felt she was my true friend from the very beginning, and she doesn't feel the same. That's where the confusion comes in. > > Before Lydia was even on the show, we were hanging out together with husbands, doing play dates, working out together. . .AND having long phone conversations about her coming onto the show. To me, we had an authentic friendship, we knew each other very well, and I felt a loyalty to her. With that said, I told her I never expected her to fight my battles with these women. And I meant it. > > However, that doesn't mean I wanted a wishy-washy friend either. If you are my friend, then you are my friend, period. When I watched the scene when Lydia met with Heather at her house, I already felt our friendship was authentic and I thought Lydia reciprocated. So to hear her say to Heather that she didn't know me that well once Heather frowned about me, I was crushed. And confused. The next few episodes also hurt. I felt Heather confirmed my feeling when she told her that she didn't feel Lydia acted as if we had hung out on several occasions. However, Lydia and I have discussed it, we have both shared our sides to it, and we have moved on. That's what friends do: discuss and move on. > > Hold on tight, because this is only Part 1 of 3. I'm sure we are in for an emotional ride." As I said before, I do like Lydia but I saw a very fake side to her when she told Heather her status with Alexis. I would be confused if I was Alexis too and really hurt. Do you think Alexis should be bothered by Lydia not claiming the friendship they have?